Thursday, September 13, 2007

Over the edge

A friend of mine for about 10 years is over the edge. She has always been a lefty. She used to be fun to argue with. I rarely convinced her to change positions but I think I showed her that there was logic and reasons why people disagreed with her it wasn't (just) because conservatives are evil. And she showed me that I'm a heartless bastard and I'm okay with that.

We drifted apart over the years. We see each other less and less. Also, she would say she'd call me back tomorrow and not actually call for 2 weeks. I don't like that. It has been about a year since I last heard from her. I sent her a Christmas card in January. I think it's over. I'm not sure I'm disappointed, the last time I was with her wasn't entirely fun :

1) she prefaced this by saying "you'd have to be a idiot not to realize this" : She claimed that in order to be middle class in the United States that you have to make at least $200,000 a year. I laughed out loud and asked if that was the median and where and how that figure came from. She had nothing to back it up, but she knows it is true. (btw, this isn't NYC. She lives in an older but nice house that cost less than 100K - I wonder what she would do with $200K/year)

(I think she got tired of saying "You'd have to be (enter pejorative here) to think (something she disagrees with)" only to have me volunteer that I might, in fact, be evil or stupid. She'd make a face of complete horror every time.)

2) she claimed that "Big Pharma" only steals research from the NIH and produces almost no useful drugs. They then sell non-useful drugs at unreasonablely high prices. The price needs to be lower so everyone can have access to these non-useful drugs. She also claimed that "Big Pharma", apparently since they have nothing else to do, creates diseases in order to sell a cure. I asked if she have any proof or evidence or even implication of this massive conspiracy involving thousands of people all over the world? I thought she'd back down. Basically, they are corporations, therefore evil, and therefore can be presumed guilty without any evidence at all.

3) she was really rude to the waitress when the kitchen screwed up her salad. Technically they screwed up her order 3 times but it was a gigantic salad and it wasn't like they accidently put an undercooked goat's head in it. Too many sprouts, aiiieeeeeee! And it wasn't the waitress's fault that the kitchen screwed up. She got huffy and declared that she knows one of the owners and that he'll be hearing about this. That she was a nice person was one of the things I liked about her.


Ash said...

Col. Milquetoast, you're only a heartless bastard because the wonderful 1.618 stole yours.

Middle class - $200k a year? That's about $350k a year in our money. This must be that Great Rich-Poor Divide I keep hearing about!

1618 said...

Hello and good afternoon people.

1618 said...

I'm lost on this post dear Colonel.

1618 said...

Are you a heartless bastard or is your friend a cranky woman?

Ash said...

His friend just seems to think that she's superior to everyone, and if you hold a different opinion to her, you must be an idiot.

I'd rather be considered an idiot than believe her Big Pharma conspiracy theory though.

Col. Milquetoast said...

Sorry it isn't very focused.
Yes, I am a heartless bastard. Because you stole my heart!!! (good one Ash!) I'm technically a bastard in the sense that I didn't care about her progressive issues.

She has become cranky, a bit of a crackpot, unthinking, and politically belligerent. She isn't much fun anymore. I don't think I can or want to count her as a friend anymore. I'm a bit grumpy about that.

She was my best friend for a long time. In retrospect, she never considered my friendship as important to her as I considered her friendship to me.

Ash said...

Col., I see what you mean.

I used to love posting at Blair's, but I've noticed that since I gave birth, because of the unusual manner I (yeah, like any of it was normal!!!) I seem to get shit off people who haven't even attempted to email me.

I don't care about people who think I'm wrong who have emailed me, but those who haven't emailed and me that just assume I'm lying shit me.

It's not like the baby's much of a secret, I just don't want to tell Jesse all about her.

1618 said...

Ashy, don't worry you're lovely.

Ash said...

Thanks 1.6.

It was just bugging the hell out of me.

Col. Milquetoast said...

Ash, I had even tried skimming some old threads to figure out why. I guess some people expected you to post a picture of the kid holding that day's newspaper and then to keep doing it for a year or two to prove you weren't borrowing other people's babies. That it was questioned was just weird.

Ash said...

It didn't strike me as weird that it was questioned Colonel, because where and how she was born was quite unique. She was born on a desk in a back office in a pub, after lunch, and a morning spent in hospital getting checked out by a doctor who insisted that she was staying put. The thing is, some people want the name of the pub, and because of Jesse's threats, I'm not letting too much about her get out and that includes the place she was born. And the idea that people would make an especial effort to visit the pub and have a drink for her makes me a bit uncomfortable.

I'm sure it boosts the conspiracy theories that I was back online the next day, but I was going completely insane from boredom in the hospital. And in hindsight, I shouldn't have posted those pictures of her that I did, but oh well.

Col. Milquetoast said...

Actually, the point the friendship probably should have ended was earlier. I helped her move and a couple weeks later she called, said something was missing and eventually suggested that I took it. About a week later she called to say they had found it. She didn't apologize or acknowledge that she accused me of being a thief but I didn't want to make things awkward by forcing the issue and I thought hey, people make mistakes.

I can be a such a complete fool.

Ash said...

Implying that you stole something merely because she couldn't find it was pretty low, Col.. She certainly should have apologised.

As for being able to be a fool, you and me both mate.